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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 18, 2008 11:16:28 GMT -5
OR WOULD YOU LET YOUR 12 - 17 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER LEAVE THE HOUSE HALF BUTT NAKED TO GO TO SCHOOL AND ROAM THE STREETS WITH THESE SEX CRAZED LITTLE BOYS? I REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND IT BUT I SEE IT EVERYDAY. I EVEN WATCHED A MOTHER TAKING PROVOCATIVE PICS WITH HER YOUNG DAUGHTER OUTSIDE ALL OVER A MOTORCYLE AND A CAR LIKE THEY WAS IN A VIDEO OR SOMETHING. AND I KNOW THOSE PICS WERE HEADING STRAIGHT TO MYSPACE. HAS THE INTERNET COERCED THESE GIRLS INTO THIS BEHAVIOR CAUSE IT GETS THEM THE ATTENTION THEY CRAVE OR HAVE WE AS PARENTS DROPPED THE BALL?
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 18, 2008 12:35:11 GMT -5
A lot of these parents nowadays are so young that they don't know any better. I know one chick who is constantly out the house and comes back late in the AM or even if at all on the weekend and leaves her 13 year old home by herself. WTF is that about?!!
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Post by Wicked on Jun 18, 2008 13:24:36 GMT -5
We live in a day and age where, the village raising children has died a miserable death. When I was growing up, If I was down the block cutting up, Mrs. Smith would politely check me and walk me home to be dealt with by my mom. We respected each other's parents and grandparents. Respect died in the same village, I mentioned earlier. Kids have lost sight of one of the most simply things you can give to another person and that is respect. They have also lost sight of gratitude. We were grateful for whatever we got as children, now they feel like are owed something.
As Sexysafire put it, "They are so young having children that they don't know any better." Being a young parent gives you the "feeling" of being grown but still a kid. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. You can tell teens, what your life was like and the response is, "that was so long ago and things aren't like that anymore." What they fail to realize is, History repeats itself, life is a vicious cycle and if you don't learn from the mistakes of those made before you, you may be destined to repeat them. I talk to my daughters everyday and the primary things I say are: 1. You don't need some one, let alone a little; no account, knuckle head walking around trying to claim you like a piece of property. That's my girl, this, Why you talking to my girl that. 2. Do not alter your life to please some one else, you have to establish who you are and know what you want before you can begin to want to accept someone else in your life. You have the world in front of you, enjoy your youth, you have plenty of time to deal with adult issues when you become one. 3. Lastly and most importanly, your virtue is something you can never get back once you give it away. Hold on to it, like you life depends on it.
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 18, 2008 13:36:56 GMT -5
Very well said!!! I never had that relationship with my mother. It was always do what I thought was best. I didn't have the sex talk. But in retrospect, I vowed never to be that way with my children. I'm not trying to be there best friend because we know most children hate that, especially when they reach high school, but I want my children to know that I will never judge them. I am always there when they need me or even if they don't need me. lol
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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 18, 2008 14:02:38 GMT -5
THAT IS VERY MUCH TRUE AND I DO AGREE. BUT ANOTHER PROBLEM IS THAT EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE BUT THE PARENTS ARE RAISING THESE KIDS. IN MOST HOUSEHOLDS THE PARENTS ARE BUSY WITH THEIR WORK SCHEDULES, ESPECIALLY IN SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS WHERE THE PARENT MAY BE WORKING 2 JOBS. THE WORLD THAT USED TO EXIST WHERE ONE PARENT COULD STAY HOME WHILE THE OTHER WORKED IS PRETTY MUCH NON-EXISTENT. AND IF YOU DONT HAVE THE TIME TO RAISE YOUR KID, THE STREETS OR THE TV WILL, EITHER WAY ITS NOT A GOOD SITUATION.
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 18, 2008 14:30:13 GMT -5
That is so true as well. I am home with my daughter right now. But when I do start working, it'll be the second shift so that her dad is home with her in the afternoon. All these kids even her age are just so grown nowadays, and she's only 2!!!! It's so hard to find a decent daycare facicility especially when you live in the hood. I do not want my child in a place like Will Smith's son was in in Pursuit of Happyness. No No No No No No!!!
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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 18, 2008 14:36:04 GMT -5
YEAH, I KNOW EVEN THE TODDLERS ARE GROWN AND THE PARENTS THINK ITS CUTE. ITS JUST DISGUSTING. AND ITS HARD TO KEEP THE BAD HABITS OF THESE KIDS FROM RUBBING OFF ON YOUR OWN WHEN THEY SPEND HALF THE DAY WITH THEM.
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 18, 2008 15:14:10 GMT -5
I have cousins that are twins. And when they were younger, they were doing all these fast tail dances and talking to everyone like they are grown and their mom just laughed it off. Needless to say, that babysitting then was an experience.......lol
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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 19, 2008 8:59:38 GMT -5
I COULD ONLY IMAGINE
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Post by Wicked on Jun 19, 2008 10:25:52 GMT -5
I have no tolerance for people who encourage their children to perform inappropriate dances. I've seen way too many youtube, myspace and hotghettomess videos of this behavior. Same thing with people telling there children to curse people out. It is just sad.
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 19, 2008 12:42:09 GMT -5
I see and hear it all day everyday. I love how people compliment me on the way I dress my daughter. They always say she looks like such a sweet little girl. And that's exactly what I like "sweet little girl." Why is it that a lot of the children's clothes are nothing but adult's clothes shrunken down? Why would you want your baby to dress like that so early?
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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 19, 2008 12:47:26 GMT -5
YEAH ITS SO HARD TO SHOP FOR GIRLS BECAUSE HALF OF THE CLOTHES LOOK LIKE SOMETHING AN ADULT WOULD BE WEARING. ITS ABSOLUTELY UNBELIEVABLE. AND I WOULD SHOOT MYSELF IN THE HEAD BEFORE I LET MY DAUGHTERS WALK OUT THE HOUSE WITH ANYTHING THAT SAYS APPLE BOTTOM ON IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 19, 2008 13:03:20 GMT -5
lol, I know. I stick to little summer dresses and things like that. No belly shirts for her, especially at 2!!! I saw a little boy (about 2 or 3) outside with no clothes on and his mother upstairs looking out the window yelling for him to come upstairs. Mind you, there were people sitting on the porch just laughing as he does some sort of dance. Now if that's not bad parenting.....I don't know what is. Also, the mother had to be about 15 y/o.
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Post by T-SMOOVE on Jun 20, 2008 9:06:02 GMT -5
OFCOURSE!!! STUFF LIKE THAT MAKES NO SENSE BUT ITS THE WORLD WE LIVE IN.
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Post by sexysafire on Jun 20, 2008 9:09:28 GMT -5
It's so sad. I can't wait to move and get my daughter away from people like that. I'm not saying that there won't be other problems somewher else, but at least I can try to take her to a better place. She deserves better than that's around her now.
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